Stephan Miller

14 Nov, 2007

Leave Me the F*** Alone

Posted by: Stephan Miller In: Business| Journal| Lifestyle| Make Money

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You have to learn this phrase. Some people won’t hear kindness. Some people won’t let you do your own thing. Some people don’t know if they would just give you more time, you could be working for yourself.

This was one of my biggest stumbling blocks in trying to get the money rolling in through affiliate marketing. You have to be dedicated, especially if your time is limited. No one is going to give you this. You have to learn to say no and get your priorities straight. Maybe making money online isn’t a priority in your book. If not, don’t even get started.

If you are going to do it like I did, while you are working a full-time job and taking care of a family, you better like doing it. Because other than eating, sleeping, spending time with your family, and working at your other job, you won’t be doing much else than sitting at your computer. Oh, you can try a half an hour here, a half an hour there, but you might as well give up on quitting your day job.

My wife understands this, most of the time. No one else I meet day to day does. They talk on and on. They ask if I want to watch the football game or go to a movie. They speak of being bored. I have not spoken that word for years. Being bored is for lazy people.

I have cut back my sleep to six hours at times. Eaten at the computer. Taken my laptop to the library while the kids look for books. I have had Netfilx movies sit at the house for two weeks at a time.

It takes more than just doing what everyone else does to give yourself a better life. If it were that easy, everyone would be making 6 figures. If you cultivate this type of dedication to what you are doing, you will not find many around you with the same dedication. They will not understand you and maybe even hate you for it. Hence the title of this post.

I used to have trouble saying no. Then I would just ignore people. I haven’t yet uttered the title of this post to anyone, but it’s there in my head. It stresses the importance of what I am doing to myself. I know the power to expletives to focus attention. I’ve got a few years of catching up to do before I relax.

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8 Responses to "Leave Me the F*** Alone"

1 | Albert (3 comments.)

November 18th, 2007 at 3:50 pm

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Hi, that thought has run through my mind a few times recently. Similar to your situation my girlfriend is understanding, almost everyone else thinks I’m crazy.

2 | Stephan Miller

November 19th, 2007 at 10:17 am

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I know the feeling well. You have to go after your dream.

3 | Tony (1 comments.)

November 20th, 2007 at 5:01 pm

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Stephan….Thank you!!! Thank you!!! Thank you!!! And I thought i was the only nut job out there! lol…I actually haven’t gone to bed earlier than 2 am in the last year….I hear ya 100%…I am married with a 4 yr old…I work full time in the Financial Services Industry (thank god I’m in front of a computer at work all day…:))….I come home…eat dinner with my wife and son….play with my son until bedtime…and I start my 2nd job!! (which i love more than my 1st job!!) but I cannot yet have my 2nd job become my only job! But that is my goal!! Hard work and passion will get me there!

Tony

4 | Stephan Miller

November 20th, 2007 at 5:49 pm

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And to think I almost toned this post and headline down a little. I thought I would piss off some people. Especially, if anyone this post is directed to actually read it. But they use the internet for other things, lazy things. But those iffy posts seem to be paying off.

I did the midnight oil thing for a while and I prefer it, but with the kids, the morning thing seems to work better. And, you’re right, being in front of the computer at work helps, especially when I do SEO work. Killing a couple of birds…

What does suck? Currently I make more through affiliate marketing than my day job. If you counted it per hour, I make ten times as much. Next year is my goal. I am going to try to double this online cash. I have done before, but plateaus become too comfortable after a while.

And I am glad, very glad, that I am not alone in my opinions.

5 | tony (1 comments.)

November 20th, 2007 at 7:10 pm

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Stephan….

Congrats on your affiliate $$ making!! That is something I have yet to master…Not sure if I am doing it right?…or that i do not have the traffic needed….A few of my blogs have over 10,000 uniques monthly…yet…the CTR is low…adsense is about $2-$3 per site…but the affiliate links are not generating anything….any thoughts/ideas?

Thanks!
Tony

6 | Stephan Miller

November 21st, 2007 at 1:45 pm

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I just actually got into blogging as a sport. That’s about the best I can explain that. I have mainly use seo to get traffic to sites in the past. A little bit of seo will go a long way.
I will try to answer this question more in an upcoming post. Too much to put in the comments.

7 | Mirjam (27 comments.)

February 21st, 2008 at 9:19 am

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wow Stephan!
Am I glad you didn´t tone it down, shame you didn´t spike it a bit more *devilish grin*… I realise you wrote this post months back and the feeling probably changed since then, doing even better, but I am sure many people who read this recognize that same feeling.

Not being understood by others, especially the ones near to you, is pretty hard and can even be painful at times.

Thank you for all these inspiring posts!

Mirjam’s last blog post..Working 16 hours a Day at Being Unproductive

8 | Stephan Miller

February 21st, 2008 at 9:37 am

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Sometimes I just feel like, this online business is my shot and I like it. My family at my house understands this attitude, but my extended family doesn’t, in fact they consider it a bit evil with religious overtones. I have had friends whose whole purpose in life was going to bars, going out, etc. And many of the people who live in my neighborhood don’t have a job at all.

And for the most part, when I meet people face to face, I am a pushover and a very quiet person. Sometimes I have to keep that persona from seeping into my actual thinking. Hence, I exorcise it with a post.

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